Being sorry is not an easy thing. You've got to truly feel the pain and disappointment in yourself as viewed from other people's minds. You need to understand that what you have done was wrong on your part and you should do your best to make peace with those it affected. It could be simple thing's like breaking something or major ones like betraying a friends trust. Whatever the reason, apologies are in order, but what is the best way to do so??? Do you call the person up and talk to them explaining it was your fault ( This is important since admitting to the mistake is the first way to reconciling with your friend ). Or you could bring them a gift to show them the effort you are putting towards making things right. Besides all the things you could do to apologize one thing is vitally important to set things right. You need to actually be sincere about what your doing, it should be a heartfelt apology, not one simply said to escape the guilt of your wrongdoing. Being a teenager and having to apologize is especially difficult. I've seen dozens of my friends mercilessly backstab each other without a second thought, claim that they have no idea what their friend is talking about when he/she finds out, shamelessly say 'I'm sorry' when they know the game is up, get back together within the hour and spend the rest of the day plotting ways to get revenge. This continuous ritual may be disgusting but is sadly an unavoidable part of high school. We all feel that green eyed monster of envy poking us to spread cruel lies about those were jealous of. No one actually seems to realize that an apology is only 1% of making good the pain you may have caused someone, the rest 99% is the remorse you must feel...I just wish that everyone( myself included ) could understand the truth behind and apology...Sadly few ever do...
A stiff apology is a second insult... The injured party does not want to be compensated because he has been wronged; he wants to be healed because he has been hurt. Gilbert K. Chesterton |
It's sad to know that such a pure thing as an apology has become so worthless in today's world. Keeping that in mind I hope you found today's article interesting, come back next time for more POSTS!!! :)
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